The fraternity you join is a critical decision. Sometimes, we don’t always know what something will be like until we’re already there! If you conclude that you entered the wrong fraternity, don’t worry. You can do plenty of things to rearrange the situation to suit you better.
Help! I Joined the Wrong Fraternity!
You’ll first need to understand and come to terms with why you feel this is the wrong fraternity for you. If it helps, list all the pros and cons and discuss it with someone you trust. If you are entirely sure you don’t want to be in the fraternity, make sure you can easily communicate the reasons and do so with sincerity. You also will need to know the campus rules around leaving fraternities. Finally, find out how your school has treated these situations in the past, and speak with any chapter advisors or administrators representing your chapter for options and details regarding your membership.
Once you get everything situated and have a clear idea of what is appropriate and what isn’t, it’s time for a round of difficult conversations. You’ll have to prioritize talking to your brothers. While it can be hard to have these conversations, everyone must know what is happening. If you are sure, you do not want to be in the frat anymore, write a kind letter to the president. Get together any items that belong to the fraternity, including your pin.
Once you leave the fraternity, ensure you don’t wear anything that dons their name. It can be seen as disrespectful to represent a frat that you have stepped down from, especially if you will be exploring other options for your pledge. Once you are a “free agent,” you can re-pledge to another fraternity; however, be ready to give them an excellent explanation as to why you did not fulfill your commitments for your previous fraternity.
Reasons to Join a Fraternity That Works for You
There are a lot of myths about joining a Greek fraternity, and when you have to walk away from one, they may feel like reality. You might be discouraged that it didn’t work out this time, but it could still be an excellent thing for you in the future. So if you feel like you’re ready to look at new fraternities, remember these great reasons to join one:
1. Connection to Campus Life
Fraternities connect you to many activities that happen around campus. Being in the wrong frat can make this connection awkward or frustrating, and you may not enjoy daily life with your brothers or sisters. In addition, the brand an organization represents on campus will be extended to you as a person, so choose wisely.
If you are in a frat that you feel good about, you are more likely to attract opportunities that suit your unique personality and skillset. This can be hugely beneficial for your portfolio if you end up participating in projects that you’re passionate about, and it can also boost your self-confidence as a result.
2. Community Outreach Opportunities
Being in a fraternity isn’t just about the campus, of course. You can get a lot accomplished with the help of your brothers or sisters, and that can be hugely beneficial to the communities you support.
You have to agree with the causes that your house has committed itself to serving. The organizations the chapter supports should motivate you personally. Hard work towards a passionate goal can help you build upon or learn new skills, meet like-minded people, and improve your self-esteem while contributing to a great cause!
3. Make Great Friends
The chapter values and the members that carry them should help you be a better version of yourself. They can help you study, counsel you in difficult times, and accompany you to the events around campus. In addition, the friends you make in your fraternity might very well be in your life for years to come, so it’s essential to enjoy their company!
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